UA-108708875-1 A Sifted Life: Blessing
Showing posts with label Blessing. Show all posts
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Friday, July 24, 2026

Believe Them

 About the good stuff too!

This is one of my favorite quotes. It was originally said in reference to paying attention to the negative attributes and attitudes that we see in those around us. But it can be also refer to the positive attributes and attitudes that we should be noticing. We spend a lot of time excusing poor behavior and ignoring amazing behavior. I guarantee there are people in your life who are showing you how much you are loved. Believe them! 

♥️ When someone checks in on you, believe them. 

♥️ When someone decides you’re worth their time, believe them. 

♥️ When someone treats you with respect, believe them. 

♥️ When someone shows up for you, believe them. 

♥️ When someone remembers something about you, believe them. 

♥️ When someone proves that you can trust them, believe them. 

 ♥️ When someone sincerely compliments you, believe them. 

♥️ When someone is genuinely interested in what you have to say, believe them. 

♥️ When someone invites you to be a part of something, believe them. 

♥️ When someone shows you who they really are, believe them.

Sliver

It’s been a long week… 

Sickness 

Appointments 

Exhaustion 

Appointments 

Stress 

Appointments 

Poor sleep 

Provision 

Protection 

Help from friends 

Patience from my husband 

Peace in my soul 

It’ll be a long weekend… 

Driving 

Hotel 

Dogs’ anxiety 

Packed schedule 

Time with family 

Celebrating blessings 

Making memories 

Lots of laughter 

Sharing the love 

Merging families

 

These bullets are just a sliver of what’s going on in my life. But just past the edge, you can make out the bigger picture. The sliver only covers a small part of some very big things. Some of those things aren’t so great. Others are amazing. We forget that a sliver is only a glimpse. Of a situation. Of a person. Of a life. There’s so much more going on than most realize. But a few will look closer. Deeper. With the right lens…and see that there’s more. And they’ll either carry the burden with you or celebrate with you, whatever the moment calls for. I encourage you to look past the sliver.

Sunday, December 27, 2020

Final Reflections

What.A.Year.
 
Unless you've lived under a rock or off the grid, you know that 2020 has been quite the year.  It's not the year anyone expected - or wanted.  And yet, here we are, in the final stretch of days.  

In preparation for this post, I went back and read my hopes for 2020.  You can find it here if you're interested.  I enjoyed reminiscing and appreciated where I had been, not knowing what was coming in just a few short months.  And seeing what I'd hoped for in my life based on my 2020 word: FINALLY.

What you may or may not have noticed, I had only two blog posts this year (before today's).  They were both on January 1st.  And then life.  And then the plague.  And then all stop.  Do not pass go.  Do not collect $200.  In the act of survival and sanity, writing encouragements just didn't seem to matter.  And honestly, it didn't feel like anything worth writing about was happening.

But as I looked back over the last twelve months, I realized the Lord was working my word into my life without me even catching it most days.  I had gotten so distracted with the news and the non-living, that I'd missed the beautiful weaving He was doing amidst the chaos.

In 2020, these things FINALLY happened:

- We sold our house.  That's right.  After 18 months of marketing and showings and disappointments, we finally sold our house during a pandemic. God has a sense of humor!

- We moved off east coast.  My spirit had been telling me to get off the coast for the last two years.  Selling our house gave us the opportunity to finally move to the mountains!
 
- We bought our dream retirement home.  During 18 months of attempting to sell, we looked at a lot of houses online.  A LOT.  Some we'd save.  Then they'd sell.  Then we'd start over.  One house in particular we loved.  I even saved pictures of the kitchen.  I had them in my camera app.  I had emailed them to myself. I had emailed them to my husband.  But the house would then be taken off the market.  On and off it went for almost two years.  Then our house went under contract.  And the house we loved?  It came back on the market.  At a lower price.  With over 3 acres of land.  We bought the house, site unseen, in the parking lot of a shopping center six hours away.  And since moving in, we've had numerous confirmations that this is the home God had been saving for us.  Finally!
 
- We have a view.  The number one and two things on my wish list for a retirement home were large windows for natural light and a view.  I finally have both.  And it's gorgeous!

- We're within two hours of our grandkids.  This has been such a blessing.  Most of our kids are scattered across the US.  So to finally be close to our three grandbabies is the best.

- I found a specialist for my autoimmune care.  While we wanted to move to a small area, away from the hustle and bustle, we didn't realize it would be a bit of work to find the services we need.  It took a lot of phone calls, and almost 10 weeks, but I finally found a doctor to transfer my records to and resume care.  That was a huge relief.

- I have ladies to do Bible study with.  One of the ways the Lord has confirmed our move to us is our neighbors.  We are one set of four couples who live in the neighborhood full time (everyone else is seasonal or vacations here).  And these ladies are incredible!  I am so thankful to finally have some neighbor ladies to do life with.

- We're experiencing seasons again.  For many years, the only season we had revolved around the humidity point and the ever unchanging pine trees.  But here we have fall colors!  And snow!  We can finally look forward to a real spring and a real fall instead of 3-5 days of teasing before getting hot again.

- We hosted 4 out of our 7 kids for Thanksgiving.  This is my holiday.  I love the food and laughter and games and relaxation.  And this was the first time in years we were able to have more than just a couple of the kids home.  My wish of having everyone home for Thanksgiving is finally looking like a possibility.
 
- We enjoyed waking up to a blanket of white.  I said we got snow here.  It's average annual snowfall is five inches.  It's snowed twice since December 1st, accumulating a total of about 6.5 inches.  In less than 30 days, we surpassed the annual average.  That's crazy and unexpected and so beautiful.  Add that I have big windows and a front row view of everything covered in snow, and I'm finally home.

Lest anyone think I'm bragging that I have this amazing life while everyone else is suffering and scared and just trying to survive, our lives aren't perfect. We've had setbacks and disappointments.  But after my failure to realize the Lord working in 2019 amid all my struggles, I decided to focus on the positive of this year.  This year has already had enough sadness and change and "new normal" absurdity.  I chose to see where we were on January 1st and list all the things that FINALLY came together over the last twelve months.

And that's what I hope you do as well.  Look back over the last twelve months and figure out what goes on your list of "finally."  Did you finally finish that book?  Did you finally clean out your closet?  Did you finally reconnect with that friendship?  Did you finally make time to make messes with the kids?  Did you finally figure out your worth?  Did you finally just breathe?  I know you accomplished some things.  They don't have to be grandiose. They don't have to be public.  They just have to be important to you

I hope you'll reflect and give yourself some credit for making it this year.  Give God thanks for getting you to today.  And ask Him how He can prepare you to face the coming year.  We clearly have no idea what it could possibly hold.  But He does.  And He'll walk through it with you if you let Him.

Wednesday, January 1, 2020

No More 2019

It's finally 2020!

One of the more popular things to do in the last decade has been to pick a word to focus on throughout the year: intentional, joy, recover, simplify, abide…a word that seems to keep coming to you or a state of being that you’re craving to embrace.

My word for 2019 was MORE.  I had wanted to give more effort, more patience, more kindness, more time. I had all these visions of what more would look like from month to month. 

What I didn’t know in January is that 2019 would be one of the most difficult years I’ve had in a very long time.  While my family was overall happy and healthy in the most important ways, there were some struggles that I only spoke about with two people.  And one in particular was instrumental in getting me through some very, very hard months.

And in that time, I got MORE in ways I never expected:  more tears, more pain, more unknowns, more “no,” more “wait.”

I felt like an absolute failure most of the time.  MORE times than not.

But my sister put such a great perspective on my word.  She told me, “I like “more.” And isn’t it interesting that sometimes our words do not reflect what we intended for them.  It proves that our hope is always in Jesus and not ourselves.  And certainly not in the hope of a word.”

Those four sentences flipped my heart.

I couldn’t deny that I had failed to give more effort.  I had wasted more time. But I had also had to be more patient and more trusting.  I had to become more vulnerable when sharing my heart with a safe person.  I had to stop expecting more from someone who couldn’t give more.  I had to focus more on the promises of God than the circumstances I was walking through.

This year we have gone through more changes than we ever expected – and less than we expected.  There were more disappointments than we had hoped for.  And many, many more blessings.

I can see now where maybe I had my focus skewed.  I was looking for all the positivity of MORE, and what I got was the perseverance of MORE.

My flippant answer right now is that I hope my new word for 2020 is FINALLY!  That the things we have been praying for, hoping for, working toward, will finally come to fruition.  That we will finally get some answers.  That we will finally be settled.  But I also finally realize that I have to leave room for the Lord to work.  I can’t simply look at my year as my wish list of things I hope to accomplish.  I must let Him guide and orchestrate and provide and be in absolute control.  Because anything that He brings into my life I know will be for His glory.  Even if it’s more than I want to deal with, I will finally have the right perspective.

Thursday, April 19, 2018

The 23rd Psalm

What's it Mean?

1The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters. He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake. Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me. Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever.  (KJV)

This chapter, made up of only six verses,  is often quoted  at funerals or to offer comfort during a time of trouble or heartache.  However, it is not always understood in those terms.  Due to several things going on in the life of two friends, I have given much thought to these words in the past few weeks.  I'd like to give an expository breakdown to help with some of the abstract ideas.  My hope is that after this, true comfort can be found in this scripture passage. (Previously posted as only verse 4.)

There’s no definitive information on when David wrote this psalm.  It’s believed he wrote it later in life, as it points to a man with maturity and life experience under him, rather than a young man starting out in life.  Knowing David’s story, we can think of many times he was probably recalling when he penned these words.

1.      “The Lord is my Shepherd…” The concept of us being sheep or needing a shepherd isn’t new to us. But until David wrote this psalm, this concept only appeared in the book of Genesis. Jacob called God “my Shepherd” in Genesis 48:15. Moses referred to the Lord “the Shepherd” in Genesis 49:24. Even before Christ called Himself the Good Shepherd in John 10:11, David, himself a shepherd boy, was clearly familiar with the symbolism and everything that title would mean.  And he made it personal – the Lord isn’t just the Shepherd, but my Shepherd.  David recognized that he was a sheep, prone to wander and get lost, unable to take care of himself, in need of a Shepherd to protect and guide him.

     “I shall not want…”  This verbiage reminds me of the sentence “I want for nothing.”  But that’s not usually an accurate sentence.  I can’t think of a single person who doesn’t want something – or several somethings – at any given time.  So what does David mean?  It actually translates better to “I lack nothing” or “I lack no good thing.”  One pastor says it this way:  What really matters that I do not have?  In Christ we have all that we need, even if He is all we have.  And at death, there is no thing that will change a moment of our life behind us or a moment of the eternity in front of us – except Jesus.  What really matters that I do not have?  JESUS!  Another author said “it is both a declaration and a decision:  ‘I shall not want because all my needs are supplied for by the Lord, my Shepherd’ and ‘I shall not want because I decide not to desire more than what the Lord, my Shepherd, gives.’”

      2.      “He maketh me to lie down in green pastures…” David’s choice of the word “make” (another translation says “has me”) indicates that God may sometimes create a situation that forces us to lie down.  In reading, I learned that a lamb that continued to wander off and have to be corralled back to the flock would have its leg broken so that it couldn’t leave the safety of the shepherd.  While I do not believe that God causes injury or tribulation to come upon us, I do think that He allows us to walk through consequences of our own making or life circumstances that will then force us to stay close to Him as we heal and recuperate.  He makes us long to be close to Him and He provides a tender place to rest.  And He knows all the best places that will bring us rest.  A shepherd would meet the needs of the sheep.  Those creatures would not lie down until “four conditions are met. Because they are timid they will not lie down if they are afraid. Because they are social animals they will not lie down if there is friction among the sheep. If flies or parasites trouble them they will not lie down. Finally, if sheep are anxious about food or hungry they will not lie down. Rest comes because the shepherd has dealt with fear, friction, flies, and famine.”  Knowing these things, David knew that God would meet the conditions in his life as well.

     “He leadeth me beside the still waters…”  Water is symbolic of so many things.  It can be powerful and deadly, deep and drowning, calming and peaceful.  In the Bible, it also represents the Holy Spirit.  While David did not know the indwelling of the Holy Spirit as we know it, he did have the anointing of the Holy Spirit and the experience of the Holy Spirit working in his life.  David knew what it was to fully surrender and be led by God beside the still waters of life – fully in God’s will and not in his own.  And so after resting in green pastures, God leads us where we need to go next.  Even if we walk into a situation that is not calm, we can be sure that He will provide us with His peace to “be still and know He is God” (Psalm 46:10).

      3.      “He restoreth my soul…” When I think about restoring something, I think about repairing it to its original state.  We restore cars.  We restore houses.  We restore factory presets.  But God is transforming us, making us into something new, something more than flesh.  Our soul, our inner being, is to be made more Christ-like. One translation says “He refreshes my soul.”  I love that!   After just speaking about still waters, the word refresh seems so much more appropriate.  When we have been troubled, we need refreshing.  To be fresh again – what comes to mind?  Alert, well rested, smelling clean, new start, clean slate…I can imagine David thinking of the clean slate God gave him with each moment of repentance.  David knew what it meant to have his soul refreshed.

“He leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake…” David had once chosen a path of his own that led to division and death.  So to write words of praise about God’s guidance was acknowledging the turning point in his own redemption.  God’s path is always right – even if it’s hard, even if it doesn’t look right from our point of view – because God’s path is always for His glory.  David didn’t have to know the path to take, he only had to know where the Shepherd was and let Him lead.  Because it is always for the Shepherd's purpose!  Sheep have no idea why they are in a particular pasture or kept in the corral.  They do what the Shepherd guides them to do because the Shepherd knows what He's doing.  We walk were God leads for His purpose - which is His glory!

     4.      "Yea, though I walk..." I’m thinking of the illness and death of David and Bathsheba’s son when I read this verse.  David’s fasting and prayer. His mourning.  Many times in our dark moments, we feel that we will never get past it.  The heartache, the pain, the confusion is so close, we cannot imagine a time when it will not be so heavy or so present.  The word “walk” shows us that is not the case.  Walking means progress.  It does not say "though I stand;" it says "though I walk." Even baby steps are progress.  And David did get up and walk forward from his heartache.

      "through the valley..." Have you ever been walking, but didn't seem to get anywhere?  David is very clear that our walk is not in circles.  It is not in vain.  Going through isn't always the option we'd like, but it's better than staying where we are.  And we don’t want to go through the valley. We wouldn't choose it. It is deep, dark, intimidating, surrounding us on all sides.  But it is a part of the journey at times.  We do not get the option of going around or climbing out, but if we will walk through the path of the valley, high ground is in our future. 

     "of the shadow of death..."  There is so much in these five words.  David suffered loss through the death of his son.  Great pain and suffering can often feel like its own death.  The loss of a loved one, a terminal illness, a heavy addiction or mental condition all come with the burden of death (or maybe the wish to die to make it end).  These five words offer hope though, in that whatever we are walking through is not death, but only a shadow of it.  Death in the flesh is only a temporary condition if we are in Jesus Christ.  So anything that we experience that makes us feel as though we are dying is merely a shadow of death.  



      On the other hand, sometimes the things we are grieving over and dealing with are things from our past.  Past decisions, past mistakes, past behaviors someone else has done to us...they aren't always healed right away.  When those things creep up and are brought to our remembrance, the intention is to continue to hold us in bondage to the hurt or guilt we have because of it.  But the "shadow of death" in these things means that they are no longer the real thing.  You survived the abuse, the relationship, the decision – and the shadow is just the memory of the thing that now needs healed.


***It's interesting to me that one of the phrases sometimes used among people is to "throw shade."  This is defined as "publicly criticizing or expressing contempt for someone."  This is exactly what the shadow of death is doing - throwing shade on a person to injure them or draw attention to some mistake or some past hurt.

***The funny thing about shadows is that it must have a light source to create it.  So even in this particularly dark, lonely, valley, there is a light that shines, allowing the "shadow of death" to even be present.  What could be the source of that light?  It is the Source of Light Himself, Jesus Christ, the Light of the World (John 8:12), Who walks the valley with us.

"I will fear no evil..." Evil can be anything from spiritual attack to more adversity from enemies to a natural calamity.  Basically anything that would intend to do you harm physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually. The key to living without fear is to live with peace.  The world around us can be anything but peaceful, but Jesus is the Prince of Peace, the One Who gives us peace that passes all understanding.  As David penned these words, he had faced so many “evils” in his life that he could truly say he feared none of them because God had been faithful to be with him through everything.  The presence of Jesus does not rid us of the presence of evil, but Jesus’ presence does rid us of the fear of evil.

"for thou art with me..." Here is the evidence of Christ's presence.  As He walks with us, His light shines, causing the shadow to be cast on the very thing He wants to heal us from or get us through.  It is His light that makes it possible to go through the valley.  He does not always illuminate the entire path, but He is faithful to show us where to direct our steps, because as verse three said, it’s all for His glory!

"thy rod and thy staff they comfort me." David was a shepherd boy in his youth so he would be very familiar with the shepherd’s tools – one to corral the sheep and one to ward off danger and sustain the shepherd.  Why would the Good Shepherd need both a rod and a staff? A rod is often used for correction. If the valley we are walking through is that of our own making, we can trust that Jesus is using the time to grow our hearts and teach us a better way.  And if it is a valley due to someone else's actions, Jesus can correct us on our attitudes and how we are approaching this difficult time.  A staff, however, is used for support.  Anyone walking through a valley is often weak in the flesh and weak in the spirit.  The staff of Christ sustains us.  He holds us up and gives us His strength to continue walking through the valley.  This imagery truly comforted David as he could see the hand of God move in both ways throughout his life.

David didn’t know Jesus, but He knew the Messiah was promised – from his own lineage!  It is in this verse and the next that David goes from speaking about God to speaking to God. (That's prayer!)  David only speaks directly to God in the darkest valley and in the presence of his enemies – two of the loneliest, dangerous, and most vulnerable times we can face.  And it is only then that David speaks to the Person of Christ as if He is standing next to him – because He is!  


5.      “Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies…” Continuing to address the Lord directly, David writes almost in awe of the blessing bestowed upon him.  To have a table prepared is to have an invitation.  Not only do we associate a table with having a meal, but also with having conversation.  There is an implied intimacy.  To then realize that all this is going on while your enemies watch is incredible! Calmly, unhurried, a table is prepared despite the proximity to the enemies at hand. Those who want only harm and ridicule to come to you have to watch you be included and provided for by the One who controls everything. The prepared table does not eliminate the enemies.  In fact, it provides an opportunity for the goodness of God to testify to them! Who can say that as they watch us be protected and provided for by our God that our enemies will not be moved to surrender themselves to Him as well? It can only be an experience that would bring both humility from us and glory to the Father.


“Thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over…” One translation reads this way “you anoint my head with oil from an overflowing cup.”  David was anointed king as a young boy.  I imagine he remembered the odd sensation of the oil as it ran down his hair, onto his face, into the back of his robe.  As he grew and served as king, the spiritual anointing continued to be evident.  As David looked back and penned this psalm, he had to have realized that the blessings of the Lord overflowed into his life.  The goodness of God was never-ending.  This is especially true in light of the first half of the verse that speaks of the table prepared before his enemies.  David truly knew that the cup of the Lord ran over in favor of David. God’s same cup runs over for us.  Do we hinder it, saying it’s too much? Do we fail to even recognize the blessings that flow from it, thinking we aren’t blessed enough – or at all????

Was David fully aware of what he’d done, speaking directly to the Lord in those verses? It’s as if he was reminding himself that God was with him, a verbal reassurance of the promise that he was not in the difficulty of these tribulations alone – “God you are with me, present, real, close enough to address in the first person.”  And then he reverts back to the third person, telling us of God, rather than speaking to God.

6.      “Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life…” David writes this line as if the traits  are personified – two beings trailing behind him.  Two other versions replaced mercy with “grace” and “love.”  I thought it interesting that mercy should be replaced with grace.  Mercy is not receiving what we do deserve, while grace is receiving what we don’t deserve.  To receive either is truly love.  But the word that really stands out to me is the translation that said “shall pursue me.”  Pursue! I can follow someone casually.  I can follow someone accidentally.  I can even follow someone I know better than to follow.  But to pursue someone – now that requires intent.  I have to plan. I have to schedule.  I have to be invested.  David felt pursued by God’s goodness and love and believed with his entire being that they would continue to pursue him for every day of his life.  Although he spoke of the valley of the shadow of death and the enemies watching him, sharing the dark and troubling moments of his life, he also shared his hope and trust in his God to never stop chasing him with the sole purpose of more blessings!  Do we even realize that God is pursuing us for the same reason???  Even in our disobedience, goodness and mercy pursue us to bring us back in fellowship with Him.

“And I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever.”  David’s worship in these short six verses only lead to this one sentence.  Through it all, the goal of our journey with the Lord is to spend our lives with Him – here on earth and in eternity.  Another version says “I will live in the house of the Lord forever.”  There is a difference between dwelling and living.  A mouse may dwell in the attic.  A long-term house guest may stay and dwell.  But those who live in a house thrive and have relationships with others who live in that house.  They are wanted, not merely tolerated. I don’t simply want to have a residence and dwell in heaven.  I want to live in the presence of the Lord and continue my relationship with Him forever. 


The Lord is my Good Shepherd; in Him I have all I need and there is nothing I lack.  He makes a way for me to lie down to heal and rest in a peaceful place; and He shows me where quiet, unturbulent waters flow.  He refreshes my inner being, guiding me onto all the right paths so that His name will be glorified. Yes, I face tribulation, but I make progress moving forward in the valley that is only a shadow of the experience I am going though and not really a reality of death.  I do not fear any other distress or grief that could come my way because I am not alone - the Light of the world, Jesus Christ, walks with me; Your correction is for my benefit, Your strength is for my encouragement because You comfort me as only You can. You extend an invitation to me to join Your table where my enemies watch You bless me. You anoint me with oil for Your purposes, continually blessing me with overflowing abundance, again for your purposes.  I know that I am pursued by Your goodness and mercy and grace and love every day of my life; and I am secure and confident in the promise that I will live in Your house Lord for all of eternity. (ljc)