UA-108708875-1 A Sifted Life

Monday, July 17, 2017

Sheeple, Sheeple, Everywhere

Why this isn't a baaaaad thing.

Wikipedia defines sheeple (a combination of the words sheep and people) as "a derogatory term that highlights the passive herd behavior of people easily controlled by a governing power which likens them to sheep, a herd animal that is easily led about."
 
Immediately, this sounds like a pretty awful insult if a group of any particular following is referred to as "sheeple."  Words like "passive," "controlled," and "easily led" don't seem to leave much room for originality or independence.
Have you ever been identified as a 'sheeple' because you were associated with a group that wasn't respected?'  Have you ever used the word to describe others you didn't respect?

It's a relatively new word that came on the scene several years ago.  It proved to be a funny and sometimes accurate description of behavior found among groups of followers.  An easy word to throw out to make fun of those who didn't seem capable of leading themselves in whatever matter was at hand.  But I have come across a very interesting aspect of this insult....

Our social media apps are covered in options to "follow" each other:  Twitter, Facebook, InstaGram, etc all have follow options.  Celebrities are known to have groupies and fans that follow their day to day lives and memorize information about them.  Activists and protestors alike follow a cause and are very vocal to have their thoughts and opinions heard.  

We use phrases encouraging it all the time - follow the leader, follow through, follow your dreams, follow suit, follow your heart, follow your gut, follow directions, follow up, follow me.


It is this human nature to follow that makes us like sheep. 

Google led me to a quote that says, “Sheep will follow each other. You've heard the expression, 'Get one to go and they will all go.' This means that if one sheep will move then the entire flock will follow. This is because of their gregarious instinct, the desire to stay together for protection.” Have you ever seen a street shut down and news crews sent out for a handful of people shouting their opinions on a topic?  Not likely because that small group isn't very persuasive.  It’s the throng of people that gets the attention.  It’s the crowd, the fellow cohorts, the followers that create the momentum to give an idea power.  And the more people you have, the more safe you feel.  That’s why you so often see a large group of people turn to poor behavior – there’s a false sense of security in the safety of numbers.  They don’t realize this is sheep behavior.

Another quote says, “Sheep display an intensely gregarious social instinct that allows them to bond closely to other sheep and preferentially to related flock members.”  Ever wonder why some groups of people gather more followers? It’s because they’re like minded.  Those who believe the same things tend to follow the same things.  Again, sheep behavior.

There are many worthy ideas, causes, and people that I want to keep up with and “be in the know” about. However, as a society – as a human race – our passions are quickly being side tracked by things that should not so quickly have our attention.  If you have access to a television, computer, or newspaper, you know that chaos that is ensuing across the globe.  Whether it’s riots or protests, picket lines or campaigns to raise money, everyone wants the spotlight on their agenda. And the only way a movement grows is to get more what???  Followers!  Spread the word, whether it’s grounded in facts or not, and convince the people you’re right.  Pretty soon, someone, somewhere will have another group of “sheeple” to point out. 

The interesting part of all of this is that we are not only followers, each and every one of us, we were created to be followers.

The problem comes with what we choose to follow. 

Matthew 9: 36 says, “When He [Jesus] saw the crowds, He had compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd.  So many people are following a leader, an idea, or a lie, that they don’t realize they’re missing a shepherd.

A shepherd’s job is to keep the sheep nurtured, together, and safe.  Nurturing can be through food or through love.  Staying together can be in the same field or on the same schedule.  Being safe can be from predators or from themselves.  I see so many people who are lacking one or all three of these things by following someone or something that isn’t worthy of leading them.

In John 10:11, Jesus says, “I am the good Shepherd.”  John 10:14 says, “I am the good Shepherd, and I know My own and My own know Me.”

Jesus is the only One worthy of following! 

It is Christ Who makes our sheep qualities have purpose.  It is Christ Who leads our hearts in the way we should go.  It is Christ Who has the ability to herd us and bring us back when we are stubborn or lost.  Without Him, we are simply falling under the control of another fickle and short lived passion that has no eternal investment.

Thinking back to those quotes from above,  as followers of Christ, we should be encouraging others to follow Him.  That sheep behavior of "Get one to go and they will all go" should be what our churches look like!  We should be so caught up in the desire to "stay together" that we encourage those around us to join us for Jesus' sake.  That sheep behavior to "bond closely" with others and prefer "related flock memebers" goes right along with that.  We should be bonded to our fellow brothers and sisters.  Our congregations are called flocks for a reason - we are members of the same Shepherd's family.  We have sheep tendancies so why do we only act lik sheep when we aren't following the Shepherd?  That's a problem!

I believe that there is a very good reason the term sheeple is derogatory.  It is reserved for those who follow blindly without the hope of a future in whatever they pursue.  But because of the Good Shepherd, we can be led by the One who holds our future in His hands and calls us by name to follow Him into righteousness.



Here is a great breakdown of how Jesus is our shepherd. 

And this page has a wonderful list of twelve characteristics of sheep and how we behave just like them!

Tuesday, May 30, 2017

Another Reason Jewish Things Matter

Do you have any idea how important today is?

Today (May 30, 2017) is Shavuot. Jews know it as the Feast of Weeks. Christians know it as the Day of Pentecost. It is the day Moses was given the Law on Mount Sinai. It is the same day the Holy Spirit come down onto believers in Acts 2.

One day - two things given.

One does not cancel the other. They compliment each other.

Jesus said, "Do not think that I have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets; I have not come to abolish them but to fulfill them." Matthew 5:17

"In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God." John 1:1

"I and the Father are one." John 10:30

At the time of Jesus' ministry, the only "Word" (Bible) was that of the Law of Moses, the Prophets, and what is referred to as the Writings.

Because Jesus is one with God, and God was the Word, Jesus IS the Word. Jesus IS the Law. And He did not come to abolish Himself, but to fulfill all that was given by God to man about Himself. Jesus fulfilled the words of Himself with His life, death, and resurrection.

Then He sent the Holy Spirit, the third member of the trinity. This Spirit now dwells in every believer in Christ. "But the Advocate, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you." John 14:26

The Spirit serves many purposes, but one very important role is to remind us of the Word of God, which is also Jesus.

Shavuot is such an important Feast day because it reminds us of the two vital components sent to us that are needed for salvation: the Law which shows us our sin and the Holy Spirit which convicts our hearts toward the Savior.

How thankful I am for both!

Wednesday, May 3, 2017

Fulfilling a Need

When there's only one person you can go to

Most of what I write can be applied to anyone's life.  But today, I want to speak specifically to married people. 

How many of us are sometimes burdened with our responsibilities to our spouse?  The meals, the laundry, the errands.  As a woman, I know I have a lot of "extra" to do as a wife than when I'm only taking care of me.  What about those honey-do lists of car washes, lawn work, household repairs, the trouble of remembering special dates.  I honestly don't know what husband might have to do that's extra, but I'm sure there are things I'm not thinking of.

Sometimes my husband and I discuss how hard he works at his job.  He says he does it for us, his family.  And I always say, "You'd be working even if you were single, so I'm not sure how that counts as extra credit."  Just like I'd still be paying bills and doing laundry if I were single.  But the point we both make is that we do MORE married than we would single.  I think my husband would live in a camper and work menial jobs if he were alone.  Singlehood tends to cultivate minimalist levels of expectation.

It occurred to me that many of the needs and duties we have in our marriages we could go to someone else to fulfill:  if I don't want to cook, I order out.  I can pay a dry cleaner to do laundry.  I can pay the neighbor kid to mow the lawn.  I can hire a housekeeper.  I can pay a babysitter.  I can call a plumber.  I can even order my groceries online now.  Just about every single thing I need my spouse to do with me or for me, I can pay someone else to take care of (if I wanted to and if I had the money to do so).

But there is one need that I cannot go outside of my spouse to have fulfilled:  intimacy.

Every one of us has the deep seated desire to be touched, loved, paid attention to.  And there is only one person who is meant to meet that desire. 

If my husband asks me for a meal and I bring him some bread and water, did I feed him?  Sure.  Did I meet his need?  No way.  Now what if he's asked me for affection and I give him a quick kiss and a hug.  Did I show affection?  Sure.  Did I meet his need?  Absolutely not.  And yet, this is how many marriages are working.

I am not so naive to think that I've just solved some big mystery of relationships.  And I acknowledge that, using my example, there are in fact people who pay to have this intimacy need (temporarily) met.  But it shouldn't be that way.

I think there are a lot of women who have learned to shut down over the years because their husbands offer them bread and water in some area(s) and then expect a meal when they finally have time for their wife.  And then those men are shocked when they are offered the same bread and water their wives have been given.  You cannot invest a little effort and expect to get a big return.  It becomes a vicious cycle and one of you has to break it.

I dare say, men, you have to break it!  By nature, most women want to nurture and fix and be your partner.  But if her needs are left unmet, there will come a day when your needs will be left unmet as well.  Women need their men to step up and love them as they need to be loved!

Women - your part is to communicate.  Tell your man what you need.  They can't read our minds.  If you are tired of bread, ask for pasta!  Ask for steak!  Ask for cheesecake!  Whatever it is you're wanting, you need to explain to him your desire:  Honey, I love you more today than when we met.  I desire you.  When you only give me a quick kiss before bed, you leave me longing for more.  I feel empty and rejected.  I know you work hard for us and I know you're tired.  But I'm craving more from you.  (And ladies, if you are the one who has been serving up bread and water because you are disinterested, it's time to buy a cookbook!  You have a responsibility to engage your husband.  Your meal at home should be better than anything the outside world has to offer.)

Men - if your wife tells you what she needs and you don't come through for her...you are widening the gap between you.  You cannot be held accountable for what you don't know.  But to know and then do nothing?  You have chosen the one way to re-enforce to your wife that you don't care.  Even if that isn't what you intended, it's what you've done.  Hear her!  Answer her!  Give her your own thoughts.  Find a way to embrace her so she doesn't feel rejected.  You being tired should never make her feel unloved.  Communicate!  And if you are offering her bread and water because someone else has offered a buffet, you need to remember that buffet food is often cold, overpriced, and handled by others.  Protect what you have at home!

After a failed marriage for each of us because our spouses could not remain faithful, this is a matter close to my heart.  I realize that there is infidelity for many reasons and sometimes it doesn't matter what one spouse does right, the other is just going to cheat.  But I also know that there are those who help things along by choosing to do as little as possible to stay connected.  You chose to marry each other!  Choose each other again!


If we are protecting our marriages, we know that we cannot go out to eat for a meal when we are tired of the bread and water at home.  Therefore, it is up to us to make sure our spouse doesn't feel as though they are living off of prison food.  Our home should be filled with love and laughter and great affection.  Our children are watching and learning the pattern of love.  Your healthy and sincere example of that in your home will help them learn what to look for in their future spouse.  This isn't just a blessing for your relationship, but also for those that come after you. 

And just as poor cooks can take a cooking class, I would encourage anyone whose marriage is struggling with intimacy to seek appropriate help.  Counseling and renewing your intimacy can do wonders for your appetite. 







(I am blessed to be married to a man today who listens to me and loves me as my heart craves.  I want to honor him and not have anyone misunderstand and think that I am referring to him or discussing our private life through this post.  Although every marriage is a long term work in progress, he continues to be my blessing in every way. I pray each of you have the same in your marriage.)

Friday, April 14, 2017

When the Things of God Offend

Salt and Light

Several years ago, I wrote a post about the importance of Christ comparing His followers to salt.  It focused on the positive attributes of salt.  You can read it here.

There's also another comparison He made to Christians being the "light of the world" (Matthew 5:14).  But living among the salt and the light, it can be a difficult walk...



If you've read the link above, the benefits of salt are fresh in your mind.  So let's start there.  I'd like to offer another property of this little white speck.  Have you ever done a search for a cleaning method and found the suggestion to use salt?  That's because of its course, rough texture.  It has many sides, none of which are smooth, so it scrubs, scours, and polishes.  It's abrasive.  Remember this word.  It is also used as a rub to tenderize tough cuts of meat.  It's not only adding flavor (see link above), but it's also serving a purpose toward making the meat more enjoyable to eat.  However, in order to do its job, the salt must be massaged into the meat, sometimes with vigor or strength.

Now let's think about light.  How many of you have experienced one or more of the following?  Driving at night and a car coming toward you with their brights on?  Sitting in the dark and someone turns the light on unexpectedly?  Going to the optometrist and they shine that light in your eyes to check your eye health?  I'm sure you're thinking of other examples.  The first word that comes to mind when I think of these situations is harsh.  Even blinding. That light hurts my eyes!


Another example of the negativity of light is when it's being used as a flashlight or a spotlight.  Police officers use lights to assist in finding evidence or people.  Someone hiding in the dark is often found by turning on the lights.  Light has a way of exposing something.  

Given the words I've emphasized, do you see where I'm going with this?

I think there are a lot of Christians who have been labeled "offensive" in their stand for the Gospel when they've simply been being abrasive salt.  They forget that a common usage for salt is to tenderize.  It's the very act of taking something tough and making it tender.  Taking a hard heart and adding some abrasion in order to soften that heart toward God's love.



I think there are people who have been offended by Christians simply because the Light of Truth called out their sin and exposed it.  That harsh and blinding light makes a person want to get back into the darkness.  It's like the person who can't sleep if there's any light in the room.  I'm like that myself.  I can get comfortable and sleep better.  But the problem is that the darkness makes us comfortable with our sins too.  There's no exposure.  There's no harsh light to show us the ugly truth of our choices.  There's no Light of God's Truth to show us we need to repent.

Now let me be very clear - I am not saying that any person should be using the bible or God in any way that is cruel, condemning, hateful, or in any way hurts another person.  No!  That is not the love of Jesus and it is not the point of this post.  The point is that sometimes the things we need to hear for our own growth are painful to hear.  The point is that if someone who genuinely loves you has hurt your feelings with what they've shared with you, it might just be because you know what they've said is true.  There is a difference to being offensive out of malice and being offended because you didn't want to be found out.

The beauty of salt is that it dissolves.  The meat does not come out ruined, but better. It mixes well and brings something new to the table.  So many people are worried about fitting in and being exactly the person their friends or society says they need to be.  The people who are tenderizing you with salt are trying to show you that it's ok to be the person GOD made you to be.

The beauty of light is that it guides.  That warm glow of the lighthouse indicates the shoreline to a storm weary sailor.  A person who may be shining a harsh light on your heart and exposing your choices may be trying to guide you to a better life.  You are unique and special and one of a kind.  And the right Light will reveal that to you.



My prayer for this post is that if you are sharing your heart with someone who thinks you are offensive, you will find encouragement in your struggle to love them.  So long as you are sharing your heart in LOVE, the tenderizer will serve its purpose.

And my prayer is that if you are someone who is offended by someone shedding light on some things you know you need to address, that you will be encouraged by this new point of view.  You are not being bullied or hated or mocked.  You are being loved on and shown that staying in the dark only leads to more darkness.  Wake up!  Don't stay asleep in the comfortable darkness.  Let this Light guide you to the shore of the best life you still have to live.


Thursday, February 23, 2017

Unforgiveness

Casting off what weighs us down

Forgiveness is one of the most difficult things we can face throughout our lives.  There is not one of us who will not find ourselves on the bitter end of being wronged, used, gossiped about, abused, betrayed, swindled, lied to, or any other of a number of things.  We have all been faced at least once with something so painful that we have held a grudge against a person.  More often than not, that person has also deserved our wrath. Withholding our forgiveness is the least of the punishments we'd like to avenge upon them.

But have you ever thought about how much work it is to maintain that bitterness and hatred toward someone?  Replaying the offense, rehearsing the words or actions you'd like to inflict upon them, avoiding them, pretending nothing is wrong, losing mutual friends.  And then there's the stress and loss of sleep, heartache and gut-ache,  tears, tantrums and time lost.  Most of the time, the target of our angst isn't even affected by our grudge.  They move on with life, happy and carefree, perhaps not even realizing they're so strongly despised.  And that just fuels our anger even more!

As much as we've all felt this way, it's just as common that we've heard we are to forgive those who wrong us, "Not for them, but for us." Blah blah blah.  Yeah, yeah.  Easier said that done.  But for all the reasons I just listed about how much work it is to keep up the hatred, I actually believe in the idea of forgiving a person because it benefits you more than them.  It improves your physical, emotional, and mental health.  It allows you to move on with your own endeavors without considering them or their affiliations.  Most of all, it frees your soul, unburdening you from the weight of that person's ever-present existence in your world.

Let me explain.

This fabulous link explains that "the Greek word used in the Bible to explain forgiveness is aphiemi.  This word refers to the act of putting something away or of laying it aside [highlight is mine]. In secular Greek literature, aphiemi was a fundamental word used to indicate the sending away of an object or a person. Aphiemi was used to describe the voluntary release of a person or thing over which one has legal or actual control. The related noun aphesis described a setting free. It means 'to abandon, to leave as behind and done with in order to go on to another thing.' For example in a secular Greek writing we read 'let the pot drop', where the verb is aphiemi (think about that grudge you are stubbornly refusing to release your grip!!! Let it go, not just with your words, but from your heart)."

I want you to get the sense that this word for forgiveness is all about letting something go.  Therefore, the opposite - unforgiveness - would have to mean something that is being held onto.

In her book, Living Beyond Yourself, Beth Moore writes the following:

"The Greek word most often used in the New Testament for forgive is aphiemi.  It means 'to let go from one's power or possession, to let go free, to escape.' In essence, the intent of biblical forgiveness is to cut someone loose. The word picture drawn by the Greek terms for unforgiveness is one in which the 'unforgiven' is roped to the back of the unforgiving. How ironic.  Unforgiveness is the means by which we securely bind ourselves to that which we hate most. Therefore, the Greek meaning of forgiveness might best be demonstrated as the practice of cutting loose the person roped to your back."

Did you catch that?  We literally weigh ourselves down by spiritually tying the person we are angry and bitter about to our back!  We carry them with us every day, into every moment and situation.  They are always on our minds because we have placed them there!  And we've done it voluntarily!

Looking at this picture, can you imagine how hard it must be to stand up?  To walk across a room?  To get dressed?  To drive?  To have a conversation?  Constantly readjusting the weight as your back starts to ache and your arms get tired....accommodating the extra space you take up because you can't put this extra person down, not for one moment... Does it exhaust you yet?  This is what we do to ourselves with unforgiveness!

I know the pain of betrayal and loss and lies and gossip and abuse.  I know the struggle of never getting the apology I deserved.  And I know the tremendous burden of carrying a person tied to my back (or several at once!).  But I've also learned the great peace that comes with releasing that weight through forgiveness.

Forgiving a person is not condoning their behavior or excusing their treatment of you.  Forgiving them is not giving them permission to hurt you again in the future.  It is simply freeing you from the negative ties that bind you to them.  And it's allowing you a healthier life - inside and out.  "The essence of the word is in the last part, give. To forgive means to give someone a release from the wrong that he has done to you. It means to give up any right of retaliation."

It isn't always easy.  It doesn't always happen instantly.  It is, however, always necessary. This principle applies to every single one of us. But as Christians, it applies so much more.  We, who have been forgiven much in our sins, are under Christ's command to forgive.

Colossians 3:13 "Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone.  Forgive as the Lord forgave you."

Ephesians 4:31-32 "Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you."

Mark 11:25 "And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.”

Christ tied our sins to Himself upon the cross, not letting a single one go so that He could then forgive each and every one who would repent and ask His forgiveness.  He did this so that we would never have the burden of voluntarily tying sins (ours or another's) to ourselves.  So forgive!  And be free.

And, while you're at it, seek the Father and ask Him to reveal to you anyone who might have you tied to their backs.  Sometimes we need to offer apologies (even ones we think we don't owe) in order to help another also release us in forgiveness. Unburdening one another is a part of the joy of walking this life together.



Friday, February 17, 2017

Why We're Done with Christmas Part 1

When we decided we were done with Christmas (and Easter, but that's another post), we knew we'd have a lot of questions to answer from friends and family.  YES, we love Jesus and celebrate His birth.  We also feel convicted to obey the Bible and not honor Him with things that are against Him.  It's hard to see my heart when you're only reading words, but I hope if you've read other posts, you'll know me well enough to see my heart as I share hard things.

Reason #1 Why we're done with Christmas...

Some of what I'll share here may be hard for some people to read. I'll keep reminding you to remember to hear my heart and to keep yours open to the Holy Spirit. I'll start with something easy (and pretty obvious).

Although it's not the only holiday to be so, Christmas is probably the most commercialized event during the entire year. Decorations start going up before Halloween. We celebrate everything we're thankful for the day before immediately going out and trying to hoard more stuff we don't need.

Black Friday kicks it all off because that's when many retailers go back "into the black" if they haven't had a very profitable year. But by doing so, millions of Americans go further into debt. Excuses are made that so much money was saved on a sale that no one seems to care that hundreds (or thousands) of dollars were still spent! Families who struggle throughout the year to pay regular bills suddenly feel the need to buy new TVs simply because they're marked down. But we miss the point that we're buying into the advertising ploy.
Then we have all of the expectations: we can't let our children be disappointed so we buy more than we should; company parties and gift exchanges add expenses; our child can't be the only one who doesn't have something for *every* teacher; last minute gifts for anyone who drops by....The expectations placed upon us are ridiculous! But again, the pressure to participate is overwhelming. And the subliminal signals to keep "giving" keep coming at us.

And while all this is being done in the name of "giving," it's also done with such a horrible attitude to everyone we come across. We're under so much financial and emotional stress that we take it out on everyone. The weary cashier who can't move fast enough, the person who got the last item that we wanted, the elderly lady who took the prime parking place. But let's put that quarter in the Salvation Army pot so we can feel good about ourselves! And let's not forget to get defensive to anyone who will listen that it is NOT "Happy Holidays," but "Merry Christmas." As if the words and the presents matter more than the attitude in our hearts.

The enemy's tactic is to take the focus off of anything that is holy and put it squarely on ourselves. And that is what commercialism has done. We are so concerned with keeping up appearances that we go into debt to be the cool parent instead of teaching our kids about gratitude and contentment. We worry about what others will think if we don't have as many decorations, the biggest tree, the newest, shiniest things to brag about. We become wrapped up in making ourselves look good and the pride of pleasing others rather than attempting to keep the focus on the cliche "reason for the season."

The bible offers advice against the trappings of commercialism. Jesus said, "Watch out! Be on guard against all kinds of greed; life does not consist in an abundance of possessions." (Luke 12:15) Paul said that as humanity continues, our hearts would become more cold toward godly things and focus more on the flesh that on the Father. "People will be lovers of themselves...lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God." (2 Timothy 3:2,4).

My first reason for no longer suffering under this Christmas season is because I will not be forced to participate in the retail scheme of incurring debt under the guise of "Jesus." Christians need to take authority over their lives in the areas of debt and possessions and showing their children that having more is not the same as having what is necessary.

"But if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that." (1 Timothy 6:8)



Reason #2 Why we're done with Christmas...

Please remember I am sharing all of this because I feel a burden on my heart to do so. I'm asking you to turn the box and look at it from a different perspective. It by no means is meant to hurt anyone. But I feel very strongly that it's important. These things need to be discussed. These things need to be brought out into the light and considered. So please stick with me and let me encourage you, even as I may make you uncomfortable.

Santa Clause. The second reason Christmas bothers me so much is the fat man in the red suit. Yes, I know there was a good man named Kris Kringle, Saint Nick, toys to the poor, etc. But he isn't who we honor this time of year.

The popular image of the Santa we know today was the creation of an artist who created an image for a coca cola ad in 1931. Before then, many images of Santa existed, but this one was well received and has remained through the decades. In true commercialized fashion, he grew to become larger than life, taking over a massive part of the Christmas season we now know.

So what's my issue? I have several. The first is that he gets credit for EVERYTHING. I feel bad for the parents who scrap and scrimp to save enough money to get the one thing their child wants - only to put "From Santa" on the tag. The child who sees his family struggling on a daily basis doesn't understand the awesome sacrifice it took for his parents to provide that gift. An opportunity for great gratitude is lost.

And then there's the fact that Santa is not an equal opportunity giver. Some kids get the really expensive gifts from Santa - "It's just what I wanted!" Other kids get the knock off brand of what they asked for and they don't know why. "Billy asked Santa for a hover board and got one, why didn't Santa bring me one too?" Yeah, explain that. Why does Santa love some kids more?

But my biggest issue with Santa is the lying. I'm sorry, really I am, I know it's supposed to be "magical and harmless and fun and in the spirit of Christmas." Except it's not. I have watched children be devastated when they finally realize Santa isn't real. I have heard them ask their parents, "so you lied to me?" These same parents who told their children they would *never* lie to them - and better yet, expect their kids not to lie to them in return.

And the lies just build upon each other. Why is that Santa in the store when we just saw him on the street corner? Why does he need helpers if he has elves? How does one man get around the world in one night? In the "spirit and magic of Christmas," we LIE and call it fun - the total opposite of behavior we are to have as Christians.

And the fear tactics! "Santa is watching you! You better be good!" And now we have the Elf on the Shelf to keep kids in line. Because it's an imaginary man who should prompt our kids to choose to do the right thing? We've turned over our parental responsibilities to a character who only comes around once a year?

And that brings me to the crux of the problem: Who sees us when we're sleeping and knows when we're awake? Who also knows every hair on our heads? Who knows when we've been bad or good - and knows every sin in our hearts? Who wants us to be good for HIS sake? Who says, "You better watch out" because there is an enemy that wants to take our minds off of our Lord? Who's impending arrival are we to await with anticipation?!? Songs are sung about an imaginary man that fits the description of the One True God - and we join in. A holiday sold to us as the birthday of our Savior and we make Him share the celebration with a storybook character with Jesus' own attributes.

When my girls were still very young, I was living off very little. I had less than $500 a month, I was in low income housing, and I was on food stamps. I was a single, disabled mom who just wanted to take care of her children as best I could. A dear, sweet friend and neighbor bought my daughters several small gifts to put under the tree I had been given. Sandy didn't want me to tell the girls who the gifts were from and told me to tell them they were "From Santa." I smiled and said, "I cant' do that. I will not give the credit of your blessing to an imaginary man. But I *will* tell my girls the gifts are 'From Jesus.' Because He's using you to bless us."

I have failed at parenting. I have failed at being a Christian. I will again and again and again, despite not wanting to. But misleading my children, planting in them the idea that not everything I say to them is true, was never a part of my parenting that I had to struggle with. I never wanted my girls to say to me, "If Santa isn't real, and the Easter Bunny isn't real, and the Tooth Fairy isn't real, God must not be real either." There is one thing that is most important above all other things - the eternal life we can spend with our Lord Jesus. Anything I do that interferes with or hampers the progress of my children coming to Jesus is not only detrimental, it can have eternal consequences.

If I've stepped on any toes, I'm sorry for the hurt. But I implore you to pray about these things. I know we get defensive about the things that we don't agree with. I do it all the time! But we are also to be teachable. We are to be open to the Holy Spirit when He brings us a new light in which to view a subject. This is not an easy conversation to have, but I hope you're willing to have it with the only One that matters.



Reason #3 Why we’re done with Christmas…

Would it surprise you to know that traditionally, Jews do not spend a lot of time commemorating births? In Ecclesiastes 7:1, King Solomon said, “The day of death is better than the day of birth.” “The Encyclopedia Judaica could not be more blunt: ‘The celebration of birthdays is unknown in traditional Jewish ritual.’ When a person is born, it is not known what he will be like when grown and what his deeds will be – whether righteous or wicked, good, or evil. When he dies, however, if he departs with a good name and leaves the world in peace, people should rejoice.” (http://ritualwell.org/ritual/birthdays-jewishly) Isn’t that interesting?
That helps explain why scripture gives many more details about the time of Christ’s death (Passover, which is widely accepted as being April 3, 33AD) and no information about the date of His birth. With our technology, scientists and evangelicals have been able to go backwards with the scriptural clues and deduct that Christ was more likely born in the fall, specifically around the Feast of Tabernacles/Sukkot which occurs in either September or October (depending on the lunar calendar). “John 1:14 tells us that the Word became flesh and ‘dwelt’ among us.” In Hebrew, the word “dwelt” can be translated “tabernacled.” If you’ve done any studies on the feasts, you know that God works mighty things on His feast days. It would make perfect sense that Christ was both born and died on feast days. (And if it’s correct, he was born on the last feast day and died on the first feast day! Fascinating, isn’t it?!)

So we have a Savior born in the fall. But His birth is celebrated in December.

I have a problem with this.

A couple of weeks ago, a friend of mine on social media had another friend send her “Happy Birthday” wishes. My friend said, “Thank you, but my birthday was in September.” This is what we’re doing with Jesus! “Yes, Lord, I want to celebrate the wonderful gift of Your birth, but I don’t really care about when You were born. I only care about the date on the calendar that was decided long ago would be Your birthday.”

How many of us would be perfectly alright if our birthday arrived and every single family member and friend ignored it? No gifts, no cake, no special wishes. No song, no extra love, no acknowledgement at all. And then, almost three months later – “HAPPY BIRTHDAY! We love you! We want to celebrate you!” But wait, it was three months ago. “Oh, we don’t care when it really was, we want to celebrate NOW because that’s what everyone else wants to do.” Soooo, it’s about what everyone else wants….it has nothing to do with you.

But the absurdity doesn’t stop there. Instead of celebrating your birthday – like they say they are – each person has provided everyone else a list of things they’d like to be given and now they are all exchanging gifts with one another! And what do you get? “Oh, *you’re* the REASON for this celebration! So thank you!” Soooo, again, it’s all about everyone else, and it has nothing to do with you.

Does anyone else see how backwards this is?

There are many, many clichés and mantras surrounding the explanations for this behavior:

*“We give presents to represent the gifts brought to Jesus by the wise men.” Except the wise men didn’t show up at Christ’s birth. They showed up 18-24 months later.

*“Christmas presents bring us Christ’s presence.” Except they don’t – they take our focus off of Christ and keep it squarely on our own wants and desires.

*“Jesus is the reason for the season.” Except He wasn’t born in this season. He is “celebrated” months later, by giving other people the things that they want, and He is then praised for providing the opportunity to focus on ourselves!

Christmas has evolved into what we see today – chaos and consumerism. And I know that there are many of you reading this who will say that you *do* focus on the real reason of the holiday. So this is where I challenge you: I think it is vital that we remember the birth of our Lord. We need to meditate on the greatest gift ever given to mankind. But we need to do it at the correct time of the year. And we need to do it in such a way that it honors Him, and not ourselves. To do that, it is necessary to look to the Feast of Tabernacles. There is much more to this feast day (and much more to come with Christ’s return!); but in terms of remembering the birth of our Savior, it is a beautiful feast of Emmanuel, “God with us,” coming to a virgin, laid in a manger, worshipped by shepherds, tabnernacling/dwelling with His creation. It was holy and quiet and unpretentious. It was the total opposite of this Christmas season that is thrust upon us.

If you are truly wanting to honor Jesus during this season, I hope you are beginning to see that there IS a way to honor Him correctly. And don’t give up on me yet. I know I’m offering a lot of information, but there is something special still to come. Stick with me! I promise it’s worth it!

(This article is EXCELLENT. I hope you’ll read it. http://hethathasanear.com/Birth.html)



Reason #4 Why we’re done with Christmas

Did you know that the Puritans, the first to settle in this New World, the colonists of 1620, banned and made illegal the celebration of Christmas? It’s true!

Besides believing that scripture was very clear that Jesus was born in September (hmmm…interesting that even the Puritans were aware of that!), they had left an England that promoted chaos at Christmas.

There was a tradition of spending the twelve days of Christmas eating, drinking, and being merry in excess. Among this excess, was “the concept of 'misrule', or a ritualized reversal of traditional social norms, [which] was an important element of Christmas. It was precisely this face of Christmas, however, that the Puritans of sixteenth- and seventeenth-century England found so objectionable. In the 1580s, Philip Stubbes, the author of The Anatomie of Abuses, complained ‘That more mischief is that time committed than in all the year besides, what masking and mumming, whereby robbery whoredom, murder and what not is committed? What dicing and carding, what eating and drinking, what banqueting and feasting is then used, more than in all the year besides, to the great dishonour of God and impoverishing of the realm.’”

"Men dishonor Christ more in the 12 days of Christmas," wrote the 16th-century clergyman Hugh Latimer, "than in all the 12 months besides."

Many among England began to reflect that perhaps the tradition of exorbitant sins during the yuletide season should be done away with. Speakers came forward, chastising the public, “With the more solemn humiliation because it may call to remembrance our sins, and the sins of our forefathers who have turned this Feast, pretending the memory of Christ, into an extreme forgetfulness of him, by giving liberty to carnal and sensual delights...” But it was to no avail.

“Dismissing all alternative datings of Christ's nativity [despite evidence to the contrary], Edward Fisher, a Royalist clergyman, asserted that 'the 25th day of December is the just, true and exact day of our Saviour's birth', and concluded with an exhortation to his readers to: Stand fast and hold the traditions which we have been taught, let us make them known to our children that the generations to come may know them.’”

Even as our nation was in its early years of birth, December 25th was still considered a normal work day. It wasn’t until the publishing of the poem “’Twas the Night Before Christmas” that states began to introduce Christmas festivities among their normal December month. The state of Alabama was the first to declare Christmas a public holiday in 1836. However, even as other states in the south followed suit, Northern and New England states continued to treat December 25th as any regular day as late as 1850. It was a full 250 years from the time the Puritans arrived until President Ulysses S. Grant deemed Christmas a federal holiday in 1870.

The banned Christmas of the Puritans was one of greed, excessive debauchery, and man-made traditions that ignored any association of Christ. I find it interesting that it appears to bear such a close resemblance to the Christmas of today. The colonists left England and the monarchy to escape persecution of religion and seek to live free under republic rule. And yet so many of the things those first Americans sought to leave behind them have crept up and made themselves at home in society today.

If those same people recognized the need to leave England and start fresh without the traditions and expectations of their previous country, I have to believe they also knew what they were doing when they made Christmas illegal in their new land.

(Quotes from http://www.historytoday.com/chris-dur…/puritan-war-christmas and http://theweek.com/articl…/…/when-americans-banned-christmas)

If you're still reading and still interested, click here for Part 2 of Why We're Done with Christmas.

Why We're Done with Christmas Part 2

Reason #5 Why we’re done with Christmas

I decided to split this post into two different blog posts (Part 1 here) because this is where everything takes a turn in the information I’m sharing. My previous thoughts have been based mostly on information that support my personal opinion. Today focuses on the facts of the origins of Christmas. So I have spent extra time praying and gathering my thoughts. It is my intention to convey the Truth of the matter while also being kind to the reader. This is not an easy thing to say, and it’s most certainly not an easy thing to hear. I know there will be disagreements with me. I ask you to remember that I am not writing these things because it matters to *me* where you stand on the issue. It matters to God where you stand on the issue. And there is no gray area.

It may come as no surprise to you that my fifth reason that we are done with Christmas is that it is tied to centuries of paganism. What may surprise you is the depths of those pagan roots.

Christmas as the observance of the Savior’s birth did not come into existence immediately. It was not observed for at least three centuries after His birth. But Christmas as a pagan holiday traces back thousands of years to a man named King Nimrod, founder of ancient pagan Babylon. “Nimrod began a counterfeit religion in the Book of Genesis that was to compete with the True Faith of the Bible in every conceivable way down through the centuries. The Bible refers to it as the religion of Mystery Babylon — the mother of false religion that will be destroyed when the Savior [Yeshua] comes to set up His throne on earth.” The story of Nimrod is lengthy and can be found here. What should be made note of is that Nimrod’s son, Tammuz, is considered by pagans to be Nimrod reincarnated. And in Ezekiel 8:14-18, the scriptures condemn any celebration or worship of Tammuz.

Historically, there was (and is) a winter celebration that revolved around the solstice. In those days, Mithras (also known as Baal to the Babylonians and Amon-Ra to the Egyptians), the pagan sun god, was renown. Joscelyn Godwin, professor at Colgate University, writes that Mithras was “the creator and orderer of the universe, hence a manifestation of the creative Logos or Word. Seeing mankind afflicted by Ahriman, the cosmic power of darkness, he incarnated on earth. His birth on 25 December was witnessed by shepherds. After many deeds he held a last supper with his disciples and returned to heaven. At the end of the world he will come again to judge resurrected mankind and after the last battle, victorious over evil, he will lead the chosen ones through a river of fire to a blessed immortality.” Godwin remarks, “No wonder the early Christians were disturbed by a deity who bore so close a resemblance to their own, and no wonder they considered him a mockery of [the Messiah].” If you didn't pay attention, you'd think that was a description of Jesus until you get to the "river of fire" part.  Scary!

In a society where both pagans and Christians fought to honor their respective savior, the Roman government offered a compromise, hoping to appease both sides. What was given as the final decree was an official calendar day of pagan traditions and gods that so closely resembled the Christian Jesus Christ that they tacked on the incorrect date of His birthday so that everyone could celebrate at the same time.

However, this caused some confusion. A mass is a celebration of the Eucharist or the emblems of the death of the Savior. Yet, “Christ-mass” is an observance supposedly in honor of Christ’s birth. Why? “The answer is found with the secular ancients. Mithras was known as the Sun Deity. His birthday, Natalis solis invicti, means ‘birthday of the invincible sun.’ It came on December 25, at the time of the winter solstice when the sun began its journey northward again. Pagan peoples were overly concerned with life and fertility. They saw life fading in the darkness of winter and so held festivals in honor of and to beckon back the sun to give life and light to the earth once more. A funeral mass came to be celebrated as the supposed birthday of the Savior.”  So going to mass serves the duel purpose of commemorating the Son/God's death while also celebrating a pagan sun god's birth?!?  How devastatingly ironic.

God-fearing Christians have always spoken up about the pagan roots of Christmas and the need to stop participating in their traditions. During his reign, Pope Leo I (440-461) chastised Christians for celebrating the birth of the sun deity on Christmas. The very Catholic church that helped create the holiday began speaking out against it! But Christians liked their celebrations.

This link is a very informative, very thought-provoking lesson on the history of pagan Christmas. It is two hours long, but so very worth it. However, if you will not watch it for yourself, here are some bullet points:

*Christmas is sun god worship, not Son God worship

*Catholic ‘halos’ behind saints are in fact sun discs for sun worship.

*This sun disc is then represented as the star on top of the Christmas tree. This tree star use predates the story of the star of Bethlehem that is commonly told today by over 1000 years.

*Our corporate worship is on Sunday because ancient Romans were already worshiping the sun god on his day of the week – SUNday. They worshiped the sun god on his birthday, December 25th. We live by the Roman calendar today.

*Constantine was responsible for combining the pagan sun worship holiday and commemorating Christ’s birthday on December 25th.

*The Norse god, Odin, is the origin of Santa Claus. He was the god of “wisdom, magic, and occult knowledge.” His name means “the inspired one.”

*Odin traveled around the world on a horse that had 8 legs. This is where the 8 reindeer came from (Rudolph was added later!).  Here's a short video of the explanation.

*Santa’s elves were originally the Krampus, a dark helper who would travel with Klaus and beat any naughty children. They worked in contrast to St. Nick/Santa Claus who brought toys and gifts to good children.

*People still dress up as these Krampuses today during St. Nick and Christmas festival times in Austria, Hungary, Germany, Italy, etc. They are very scary looking beings and are often referred to as “demons.” Here's a video so you can see just what these things look like.  Warning:  don't open it in the presence of your children!

*By the 1500s in Holland, Odin became Sinterklaas; a kind and wise old man with a white beard, white dress, red cloak, crosier, and riding the skies and roofs of the houses on his white (8 legged) horse, accompanied by his Krampuses, leaving gifts for people under his sacred tree, the fir tree. He would visit on his own birthday, December 25th, and bring you gifts if you’d been good and his Krampus would beat you if you’d been bad.

*Why does Santa say “ho ho ho?” In The History of a Hobgoblin, author Allen W. Wright reveals, “Robin itself was a medieval nickname for the devil” and “Robin’s trademark laugh is ‘ho ho ho.’”

*In the 1970s, the Second Vatican Council formally stated that no Roman Catholic bishop by the name of Nicholas ever existed. There has never been a Saint Nick! Furthermore, Vatican II confessed that the legends attributed to this “saint” had no Christian origin, and probably came from pagan traditions! They essentially admitted that St Nick came from Odin who had been “Christianized.”

*The belief that Santa enters the house through the chimney developed from an old Norse legend. The Norse believed that the goddess Hertha (hearth??) appeared in the fireplace and brought good luck to the home.

*Druid homeowners would leave a treat of milk and pastries to appease the god that came down into their chimney into their fireplace.

*And here's an explanation of the tree used for pagan worship.

There is nothing wrong with traditions. We have many traditions in our lives that bring joy and happiness. It is when those traditions take precedence over scripture that we have a problem. We cannot both adhere to the traditions of man that are connected to paganism and say that we are also following the commandments of God. Many Christians will say, “That’s not what it means to *me.* That’s not what *I’m* celebrating.” Except that it is. There is evidence that Christmas is NOT Jesus’ birthday. There is evidence that Christmas IS pagan. So to say that your participation is about God and not about pagans is impossible.

But here’s one more thing: Modern day pagans and atheists mock Christians for participating in Christmas. Of all the people in the world, they KNOW the history of Christmas, and it’s not at all related to Jesus. And they laugh and ridicule us believers because we participate in the same sun and Odin worship that they are participating in. We can say that we’re singing songs to our King. We can put out our Nativity scene. We can read our scriptures about Christ’s birth. But none of that changes the facts of December 25th as the birthday of the pagan sun god.

I read a statement by Alfred Carl Hottes from 1954. He said, “If the children of Israel couldn’t use a golden calf to honor the Father, what makes us think we can use the Mithraic custom of decorating an evergreen to honor His Son?” We cannot pick and choose what we say something means. History shows us what this holiday means. It is within our ability to research and see where each part of the Christmas tradition came from.

Pagan quote: “As a pagan, I laugh every time Christians whine about their ‘Christmas traditions’ being altered and abused. You guys took our traditions and don’t even have any unique ones.”

Pagan quote: “Pagans are the reason for the season.”


Reason #6 Why we’re done with Christmas

I want to thank everyone who has made it this far with me! While I welcome everyone to read and comment, I really have been speaking to my brothers and sisters in Christ. I hope I’ve made that clear and that you’ve read all the previous posts, even if you haven’t commented. I know the last post was the hardest to read. I intentionally started with the other stuff so I could create a foundation: not only so that my reasons built upon each other, but so you would see my heart and understand my compassion. I pray that has come across. I am in no way trying to have a “judgmental spirit.” I have had a tree and stockings and know all the songs. So I’m not coming from a position that says I’m better than you are. But I feel that when you have information about something that can help someone else, you are obligated to share that information. And as a Christian, when I have information about a topic that is *hurting* another Christian’s walk with the Lord, it’s also my responsibility to share that information. In this case, this information meets both of those.

So that being said, I have one more reason of “bad news” about Christmas. And as hard as the last post was to write, this one is harder. Not because the information is worse, but because it leaves no room for excuses. If you’re willing to stick with me, I pray you will keep reading.

The first thing I’d like to address is the emotions that come with being faced with this revelation of Christmas. Here you are, happy and joyous, loving everything about your favorite time of year – decorating and singing, putting out the nativity set, reminding your kids that it’s not just about the presents, but Jesus is the reason for the season! And here I come, with all my reasons. And you read them because you’re curious and you like me and you want to know what I have to say and where I’m going with all this. And now you maybe wish you hadn’t. Because now you can’t unknown any of this. I suspect there’s shock at never hearing some of this. Bewilderment that what you thought is nothing at all close to the truth. Maybe anger that Christmas has such a deceptive past, not at all related to what you thought. And perhaps you’re even angry at me, a little, deep down, for ruining this for you. Why couldn’t I just keep my thoughts to myself? How about grief and loss? If Christmas is pagan and doesn’t have anything to do with Jesus, now what? (I’m going to address *that* in my next post!). But among all those feelings, what I’d like to talk about today is those of you who are thinking “So what? That’s not how *I* mean it so I don’t see any reason to change what I’m doing.”

And so here’s the hard part I said it would be today. I’m praying for all the right words and I’m asking you to pray that God will speak to your heart. Because this isn’t about me. It’s about HIM.

When this topic comes up, I usually hear one of these statements to justify why it’s still ok to celebrate Christmas:

1. "God knows my heart." Oh, sweet friend, He does! He knows every crevice, every thought, every longing. Do you know what He says about our hearts? “The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?” (Jeremiah 17:9) In Romans 7:8, Paul said, “For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out.” So when I hear, “God knows my heart” about that person’s feelings about Christmas, I remember that there is no goodness in our feelings outside of the change Christ makes in us. We are, by nature selfish, and self-centered. And God truly does know our heart in that (and every) way.

2. "That’s not what I mean when I celebrate Christmas so it shouldn’t matter." Except it’s not about how *we* feel. Deuteronomy 12: 4, 31 says, “Do not inquire about their gods, saying, ‘How did these nations serve their gods?—that I also may do the same.’ You shall not worship the Lord your God in that way, for every abominable thing that the Lord hates they have done for their gods.” God cannot be more plain here – He is saying that He does not want to be honored in the same way that pagan gods are honored. It is not to His glory. Even if *you* are not trying to be pagan in your practices, it IS pagan and God hates it.

3. "God made all days equal." This is true! God is the creator of time and dates and calendars. I see this scripture a lot as an explanation for why Christmas can be celebrated by Christians: “In the same way, some think one day is more holy than another day, while others think every day is alike. You should each be fully convinced that whichever day you choose is acceptable. Whoever regards one day as special does so to the Lord. Whoever eats meat does so to the Lord, for they give thanks to God; and whoever abstains does so to the Lord and gives thanks to God” (Romans 14:5-6). Paul was addressing those things which were ingrained in the Jews to avoid as law under Moses versus those things that they were free to do through the salvation of Christ (eating meat and esteeming one day over another). He was *not* giving permission to worship God as the pagans do. God sees every day as the same, as His created time. However, He does not see celebrations on a particular day as acceptable for His glory if those celebrations include paganism or witchcraft – especially when done under the guise of HIS NAME.

Another example is Colossians 2:16-17: “Therefore let no one pass judgment on you in questions of food and drink, or with regard to a festival or a new moon or a Sabbath. These are a shadow of the things to come, but the substance belongs to Christ.” All things mentioned here are referring to Messianic Jews who continued to keep the Feasts of the Old Testament, even in their new faith in Christ. Others were mocking them and Paul told them to only be instructed by the body of believers. It is NOT speaking to celebrations outside the realm of scripture.

Many people don’t even realize that the Bible instructs us not to bring a tree into our home for decoration. “Learn not the way of the nations…A tree from the forest is cut down and worked with an axe by the hands of a craftsman. They decorate it with silver and gold; they fasten it with hammer and nails so that it cannot move” (Jeremiah 10: 2-3). It wasn’t the tree itself that was the problem – it’s the fact that this tradition was found in pagan religions. It was a form of worship (as was discussed in the last post). God is saying, “Don’t do what the pagans do and say you're doing it to honor or worship Me.”

Everyone recognizes the commandment “You shall have no other gods before me” (Exodus 20:3). But when it comes to “Christian” holidays, we tend to look the other way. Jesus said in Mark 7:9,13 “You have a fine way of setting aside the commands of God in order to observe your own traditions! Thus you nullify the word of God by your tradition that you have handed down. And you do many things like that.” In Matthew 15:5, Jesus said, “Why do you break the commandment of God for the sake of your tradition?” How clear Jesus was!  He was blatantly calling out the believers for breaking the commandment of God in order to do their own thing! We cannot justify our own way by going against His way.

If you’ve studied the Bible for a while, you’ve heard this verse many times: "All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness” (2 Timothy 3:16). I would like to couple it with this verse from Ephesians: “Take no part in the worthless deeds of evil and darkness; instead, expose them” (5:11). THIS is my motivation! I want to point you to scripture to expose the lies and deceit that has pervaded our faith so that we may teach and correct and live righteously! We have allowed these things to come into our lives, and we have accepted them without question. It is time to get rid of them and honor God as He says to honor Him!

While I’m not usually overtly confrontational, for the sake of this conversation and for the love I have for you, I am going to openly challenge what I believe is still the most common reaction to all of this information.

There is no doubt or question now that Christmas is a pagan holiday. There is not one thing about it that celebrates Christ. No matter how many memes are made and shared, the truth is that the Son is not who is being honored with this day. It is literally idol worship and against God. Anything against God is by definition anti-Christ. Let that sink in for a moment.

But I can still hear the excuses and the justifications. My friend, that is rebellion.

*Hebrews 10:26 says, “For if we go on sinning deliberately after receiving the knowledge of the truth, there no longer remains a sacrifice for sins.”

*1 Samuel 15:23 says, “Rebellion is as sinful as witchcraft, and stubbornness as bad as worshiping idols.”

*Isaiah 5:20 “Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light, and light for darkness; that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter!”

*2 Tim 4:3 “For the time will come when people will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear.”

My greatest heartache over this subject is not that Christmas is celebrated among the body of Christ (although that bothers me a great deal). What concerns me so very much is that there are believers WHO KNOW THE PAGAN HISTORY AND DO NOT CARE.

Imagine I am on a trip. I am driving through a state and do not know the speed limit. I get pulled over by a police officer. Although I explain I did not know the speed limit, and therefore, did not know I was speeding, I still am issued a ticket. I am held accountable for my ignorance of information I didn’t have. Now imagine that I am traveling and I see that the speed limit is 55mph, but I want to go 70mph. I get pulled over. The officer asks me if I knew the speed limit. I tell him yes, but I chose to ignore it because it was too slow for me. I get a ticket. *I knowingly and willfully ignored the law in order to do what I wanted.* THAT is what some Christians are doing with Christmas! Knowingly and willfully ignoring God’s Word in order to do what they want. And attempting to justify it!

Do you ever find that people around you aren’t interested in your faith? Do you remember the last time someone was truly interested in hearing how God has changed your life? Why do you think that is? Could it be because we Christians are so busy trying to fit in and look the same as the rest of the world that they already think they’re like us? That is the exact opposite of our calling! We are to be so different that the world wants what we have! *They* are to be drawn to *us,* not the other way around. What would it look like if Christians truly looked different from the rest of the world? Maybe we'd be taken more seriously. “Come out from among unbelievers, and separate yourselves from them, says the LORD” (2 Corinthians 6:17).

If your motivation to celebrate Christmas is truly about celebrating Jesus, you’re at a crossroads. You’ve been presented with Truth – from God’s very word. With every bit of love I know to convey, I hope that I have led you to a moment where you have to say, “It’s not about how *I* feel about it. It's about honoring God, the Father, and the Son, Jesus Christ.” Do not fall into the trap of participating in an anti-Christ holiday!

But how do you DO that? I bet you are still feeling conflicted about the “giving up” of Christmas things: the lights, the joy, the family time. Do not despair! Please, please keep coming back! I have GOOD NEWS! There IS a way to honor the Son and do it in a way that is acceptable to Him. Until that post, know that I tell you these things because I love the Lord and I love you! The intention of my heart is to draw you closer to Him in all this – even though it’s difficult.

“And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free” (John 8:32).





Reason #7 Why we're done with Christmas

When I posted this on my personal Facebook page, I had very little response.  I wasn't surprised. It's hard to argue with God about what He accepts.

But now we're at the moment to answer the question "What Now?" My last reason possibly left you feeling rather conflicted: wanting to be obedient to the Father, but also grieving giving up the traditions of Christmas. I offer you an alternative.

Hanukkah!

This is considered a minor day on the Jewish calendar. It is not one of the seven holy feasts given to the Israelites through Moses that they were commanded to keep. It is a commemoration of God marked by man (not unlike the stories told about Christmas). And, as if you needed any more surprises, it falls on the 25th day of Kislev (the 9th month) each year! Isn't it ironic that there is already a holiday set aside on the 25th day that *actually* means something to honor God?!

Anyway, how did Hanukkah come to be? In the time of Antiochus IV, the reign over the Jews became very harsh. Outside religions were being forced upon the Jews and their Torah teachings and Temple sacrifices were outlawed. The Temple was desecrated and thousands of Jews were killed because they refused to assimilate into the heathen lifestyle.

A man named Judah Maccabee led a revolutionary army (the Maccabees) against the forces of Antiochus and defeated them. The Temple was regained under Jewish control. However, in the process of cleansing everything and restoring it as the seat of God, it was found that there was not enough lamp oil. God had commanded that a menorah be lit every night, all night in the Temple. There was only enough oil for one night and it took eight nights to make more oil that was pure for the purpose of the Temple. But through a miracle, God multiplied the oil to last the full eight nights to allow the priests time to purify more menorah oil. Hence, the celebration of this miracle of enough oil came to be Hanukkah.

Here are some fun facts:

*Hanukkah is also known as The Feast of Dedication (rededicating the Temple to God) or the Festival of Lights (light of the menorah).

*Jesus was at the Temple during this time of year! John 10:22-23 says, "Then came the Festival of Dedication at Jerusalem. It was winter, and Jesus was in the temple courts walking in Solomon’s Colonnade." Hebrew bibles use the word Hanukkah.

*The Hanukkah menorah has nine branches (the menorahs for the Sabbath have only seven) - one for each of the eight nights and a space for the shammus candle. The shammus is the servant candle, used to light the other candles each night. This servant candle can then be used to light other things around the house if needed, but never one of the branch candles. The servant candle must always provide the light.

*In John 8:12, Jesus said, "I am the LIGHT of the world." And in Matthew 20:28, Jesus said, "just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to SERVE." The Festival of Lights celebrates *the* Light of Jesus Christ, who came as a servant.

*In Matthew 5:14, Jesus said, "*you* are the LIGHT of the world." And Galatians 5:13 says, "through love, SERVE one another." Hanukkah reminds us that, through Christ, we now take His light into our own world to serve in His name!

Other important facts:

*Due to the Jewish calendar being based on the lunar cycle (Roman calendar is based on the solar cycle), each feast can fall at a different time on the Roman calendar each year. This year, Hanukkah begins at sundown on December 24th. Last year it began at sundown on December 6th. In 2013, it began at sundown on November 27th!

*Hanukkah is NOT a Jewish Christmas. It has been mistaken as such because it often falls around the same time of year. As a minor holiday, the emphasis was put upon remembering God's miracle of the oil by the lighting of the menorah and reciting the blessings. As Jews came to America, it grew to involve eight nights of gifts because Jewish children were watching Christmas being played out around them.

*A modern day tradition is to have foods fried in oil during the eight days of Hanukkah. Latkes are very popular as are donuts. The focus is always the miracle of the oil.
Tomorrow I'll share what our Hanukkah looks like. It's evolved over time and it will continue to as I seek and obey God. For now, I want to leave you with this link if you'd like a more in depth look at this minor feast with major symbolism of our Lord Jesus.




What Does Our Hanukkah Look Like?

With all of the information I’ve posted about Christmas, I hope that I’ve also offered you a different perspective in finding an alternative through Hanukkah. But perhaps you’re at a loss as to what that should look like? The beauty of this year is that Hanukkah begins at sunset on December 24th. It literally coincides with Christmas. This creates a very special opportunity to switch gears and convert some of your efforts to a holiday that truly has meaning. It’s not nearly as overwhelming and complicated as it sounds. And if you aren’t quite ready to make the cut to Christmas, if you still need time to pray about it and figure out how to tell your family of your desire to be obedient to God in this area, don’t panic! There’s an entire year to prepare for next Hanukkah!

In the meantime, I thought you might like to know what our home looks like during this Festival of Lights. The biggest difference is that there is no tree. But we do have blue and white lights decorating our front porch outside. There are blue and silver ornaments and ribbon on our hearth. I have two menorahs sitting on my mantle that will be used during the eight nights of Hanukkah once it begins. And tomorrow I will attempt to make my first door wreath with blue and silver ball ornaments. There is no reason why you cannot appropriately decorate your house beautifully during this time!

As I previously explained in another post, gift giving during Hanukkah is a relatively new thing. The traditional gift of Hanukkah has been to give the children gelt – small amounts of money. However, Jewish families moved to American and their children felt left out watching other children receive gifts for Christmas. In preparing for our own Hanukkah this year, I created a list of gifts for each night. Each of these could easily be adjusted to fit your own desire for your family. The only thing I didn’t do was ask my kids for a gift list like I’ve done in previous years. The focus – in addition to the miracle of the oil and God’s gift of Jesus as the Light of the World – is family. I tried to carry that through each of the gifts my family will be getting.

*Night 1 – Something practical (something they may need)

*Night 2 – Something for the family (to enjoy together, like games or a movie)

*Night 3 – Something fun or silly (everyone got a funny glass or mug)

*Night 4 – Something for a stranger (we will be handing out gifts to random people on the street)

*Night 5 – Something for charity (we filled 16 goodie bags for local nursing home residents who have no family and who would otherwise gone without anything to make them feel loved)

*Night 6 – Something small (not necessarily in size, but in concept)

*Night 7 - Something gelt (I bought chocolate covered coins to represent Hanukkah money given to children)

*Night 8 – Something they want (not expensive, and intentionally last)

We will read the story of the Maccabees and discuss the miracle of the oil in the reclaimed Temple. We will discuss how Jesus is the Light and the Servant – lighting each of us to do His will and bring His glory and the good news of His salvation to the rest of the world. We will light the candles each night and recite the blessings.

And we will eat! Foods usually consist of things fried in oil (imagine that!). So we will have Darren’s favorite – my fried chicken. We’ll also make latkes (Jeannie calls them fancy hashbrowns) and chocolate chip challah bread. I found a recipe for brisket, which seems to be popular despite not being cooked in oil. And I’ll have to get donuts sometime during the week. Darren is a picky eater and I’m not sure how Lance will like it, but the girls and I are excited to try some new things.

And that’s about it! Instead of one day, it’s eight. Instead of a tree, we have a menorah. Instead of red and green, we have blue and white. Instead of an imaginary man who is supposed to know everything about you, we have a God who truly knows everything about us – and loves us even when we haven’t been good.

I want to thank each of you who have read every post to the end. I thank you for loving me as a friend and not attacking me even if you don’t agree with me. I thank you for knowing that my heart is for my Lord – and it’s for you – and so you showed me love in return. I thank you for having an open heart and a willing spirit. And who knows? Maybe next year you’ll be lighting your own menorah!

“The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make His face sine upon you and be gracious to you; the Lord turn His face toward you and give you peace.” Numbers 6:24-26